Uncovering the Reasons Behind a Wife's Betrayal: Expert Insights

By Vanessa Cardenas, Betrayal Recovery Specialist

Serving Westchester, NYC, and the Surrounding Region in person, worldwide via Zoom

Let's get right to it. What are the secrets you need to know? What causes a woman to betray her spouse? While there is a vast array of answers, below are five common reasons shared with me in my work as a betrayal recovery specialist that you should be aware of.

1. Wanting to Leave a Relationship

Some women find it easier to cheat, forcing their current partner to end the relationship rather than ending it more directly or assertively. Other women know they want to leave, but they are not willing to do so until they’ve got another relationship lined up.

2. Low Self-Esteem

Women with low self-esteem, depression, unresolved childhood trauma, and other similar issues may seek validation through romantic and sexual activity. If someone else gives them the attention they seek, they feel worthwhile, desirable, wanted, needed, and lovable.

3. Loneliness and Neglect

Sometimes women feel more like a babysitter, maid, mother, hired help, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. They may use sex or an emotional affair outside the relationship as a way to fill the emotional void.

4. Lack of Female Social Support

A big part of healthy womanhood involves supportive female friendships and a sense of female community. Some women, especially those who experienced maternal abuse or neglect, undervalue this while concurrently overvaluing the attention of men. This can lead to infidelity.

5. Unrealistic Expectations

Some women expect their partner to meet all their needs and desires (even when they rarely share what those needs and desires actually are). When their partner inevitably fails them, these women will sometimes turn to someone else and tell them exactly what they want.

Final Thought

There are many more reasons, however, these are the most common in my work. While it is devastating to think of all the reasons why this happened to you and the blame and shame you will consciously or unconsciously put on yourself...the fact of the matter is that she chose to betray you rather than reach for you to share her feelings.

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