Vanessa Cardenas, Relationship Reset Expert and Betrayal Recovery Specialist
Helping individuals and couples rebuild trust, restore communication, and strengthen emotional connection since 2017.
I am Vanessa Cardenas, a Relationship Reset Expert and Betrayal Recovery Specialist. Since 2017, I have been helping individuals and couples rebuild trust, strengthen communication, and create relationships that feel steady, safe, and deeply connected.
How I Became a Relationship Recovery Expert and Betrayal Recovery Specialist
My work is rooted in my background in psychology, two decades of executive leadership, and years of guiding people through the emotional complexity that unfolds when trust breaks or connection fades. This blend of professional expertise and lived experience allows me to bring clarity, structure, and emotional steadiness to situations that feel overwhelming.
After discovering betrayal in my twenty five year marriage, I made a decision that changed everything. I chose to stay. We committed to rebuilding. The process reshaped both of us from the inside out. We are still together today, wiser and clearer, and grounded in the tools that helped rebuild our relationship. That lived experience shapes the guidance I offer and allows me to support others with compassion and clarity because I understand this path from the inside.
How I Support Your Relationship Reset and Betrayal Recovery
Whether you are facing the shock of betrayal, the ache of emotional distance, or the quiet exhaustion of trying for too long without being met, we begin with where you are. I offer grounded, personalized support designed to help you understand what is happening inside your relationship and take steps toward clarity and emotional stability.
You will receive support designed to help you:
Understand what is happening inside your relationship
Navigate emotional triggers
Rebuild emotional safety
Restore communication
Stabilize your inner world
Shift from fear into clarity
Reclaim your sense of self
Reconnect with your partner when both of you are willing
Every session includes strategy, care, and honesty. I say what needs to be said, not only what is easy to hear. This is how real healing begins.
If you want to explore the work more deeply, you can review the full Relationship Reset and Betrayal Recovery Programs here.
Who I Support in Relationship Reset and Betrayal Recovery
I work with individuals and couples who value emotional intelligence, personal responsibility, and a thoughtful, grounded approach to relationship healing. My clients are often high-functioning professionals, entrepreneurs, leaders, or emotionally aware partners who want clarity, honesty, and a structured path forward.
They want guidance that is calm, strategic, and emotionally mature, not surface-level reassurance. They want to understand themselves, strengthen communication, and rebuild trust with intention.
I support clients in Westchester County, Putnam County, Tarrytown, Croton on the Hudson, Cold Spring, Garrison, and across the United States through online sessions.
If this aligns with what you are navigating, you can learn more about how I support individuals and couples during an Initial Foundation Session.
My Mission in Relationship Reset and Betrayal Recovery
Relationships ebb and flow. Too often we become complacent partners, unable to express the words that matter most. My mission is to help individuals and couples rebuild trust, restore communication, and return to a relationship that feels emotionally safe, honest, and aligned with who they are becoming.
During your Initial Foundation Session, you receive your HOPE Roadmap. HOPE means Hold On, Pain Ends. This roadmap is tailored to your unique relationship needs so you can begin your healing with clarity, direction, and steadiness.
Every heart deserves to be seen, heard, and deeply connected.
This work is about rebuilding from the inside out with honesty, skill, and hope.
If you are ready to begin, you can book your Initial Foundation Session or contact me directly
Professional Recognition & Expertise in Relationship Reset
Best Relationship Coach, Westchester County 2025
Oxford Talk reached 300K views in two months
Creator of the HOPE Framework for Relationship Reset
Founder of Understanding Ear | Serving clients since 2017
Guiding individuals and couples across Westchester County, NYC, and nationwide
Relationship Reset and Betrayal Recovery Programs
"I work with individuals and couples who value emotional intelligence, personal responsibility, and a thoughtful, discerning approach to relationship healing"
I support individuals and couples across Westchester County, NYC, and surrounding areas who are navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, or a relationship that no longer feels steady. Each program is built to help you regain clarity, strengthen communication, and rebuild trust with intention and emotional maturity.
Individual Relationship Reset Guidance
Individual work offers a structured path for those navigating betrayal, uncertainty, or emotional overwhelm in their relationship. The focus is on helping you stabilize, understand what is unfolding, and begin making grounded decisions that protect your well-being.
You will learn how to:
Understand the patterns shaping your relationship
Navigate emotional triggers without losing yourself
Rebuild inner safety after betrayal
Strengthen communication with intention
Reclaim confidence, clarity, and self-worth
This work is direct, clear, and emotionally steady. It is designed for individuals who want support that goes beyond surface-level reassurance.
Couples Relationship Reset Support
For couples who are both willing to rebuild, this process offers a structured, emotionally focused approach to restoring trust and repairing communication. Sessions create a space where truth can be spoken without escalation, where accountability is possible, and where both partners can begin creating a relationship that feels safe again.
This support serves couples across Westchester County, Putnam County, NYC, and surrounding areas who want a clear path forward.
The HOPE Roadmap (Hold On, Pain Ends)
Every journey begins with an Initial Foundation Session. During this session, you receive your HOPE Roadmap, a personalized guide outlining the emotional patterns, communication shifts, and next steps that will support your relationship reset.
This framework brings clarity to complexity. It shows you where you are, what is possible, and how to move forward with steadiness and confidence.
Online Resources and Workshops
For clients seeking additional guidance, I offer workshops and online sessions focused on communication, emotional regulation, boundaries, and rebuilding trust. These programs are ideal for individuals and couples who want structured learning beyond one-on-one support.
Whether in-person in Westchester County or online, each resource is designed to strengthen emotional connection and deepen relational awareness.
For a complete overview of all support options, visit the Understanding Ear Services page.
My Credentials: Educational Background, Training, and Certifications in Healing
Education and Training
Psychology Degree, Baruch College, NYC
Certified Post-Betrayal Transformation Coach, Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute
Certified Post-Betrayal Transformation Support Host, Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute
Certified Trauma Coach
Certified Life Coach
Certified 6-Phase Meditation Trainer
Mental Fitness Instructor
Professional Affiliations and Roles
C-Suite Executive, Healthcare Corporation
Founding Member, West Point Toastmasters
Alumni, Speaker Nation
Keynote Speaker and Event Emcee
Administrator: Betrayal, Cheating, and Heartbreak Support Group
Moderator: Humans Navigating Betrayal Facebook Group (15K members)
Moderator and Group Expert: Divorce Support Group for Women Facebook Group (30K members)
Vanessa combines her professional background in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, training in betrayal recovery and trauma informed support, and her personal journey to help others find real healing and transformation.
To learn more about my background and approach, you can visit the main Understanding Ear homepage.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if relationship coaching is right for me?
If you're feeling stuck, disconnected, or facing betrayal, and you're ready to actively work toward healing, coaching can offer structure, insight, and guided progress.
What qualifications should I look for in a betrayal recovery coach?
Look for certifications in trauma-informed or post-betrayal coaching, psychological qualifications, experience with infidelity recovery, and client success stories, qualities Vanessa embodies.
Can coaching help me understand and manage emotional triggers?
Yes, relationship coaching can help you identify emotional triggers, understand their roots, and develop personalized strategies to communicate and self-regulate more effectively.
What is the difference between life coaching and relationship coaching?
Life coaching addresses your personal goals broadly; relationship coaching focuses specifically on communication, trust, emotional safety, and healing within your relationship.
Is virtual coaching as effective as in-person sessions?
Absolutely, virtual sessions provide flexibility, privacy, and accessibility, especially when facilitated by an experienced coach like Vanessa.
How often should I schedule coaching sessions?
Frequency depends on your needs, most clients begin with weekly or biweekly sessions, then adjust as they progress with guidance and trust-building support
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