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About Vanessa Cardenas

Relationship Reset Expert & Betrayal Recovery Specialist

Helping individuals and couples rebuild trust, restore communication, and move forward with clarity

Explore the Relationship Reset Experience Read Client Testimonials

Start here: If you want the philosophy behind the work, read the Relationship Reset Manifesto.

Vanessa Cardenas, Relationship Reset Expert and Betrayal Recovery Specialist

This Work Exists for People Who Are Done Guessing

This work is for people who are capable, thoughtful, and emotionally aware, yet stuck in relationship patterns that no longer make sense.

Many individuals and couples don’t need more effort. They need structure: a container that stops conversations from looping, clarifies what’s actually happening, and makes next steps easier to choose.

If you want context first, start with the Relationship Reset Manifesto.

This Is Not About Fixing People

This work slows things down enough to see clearly—without pressure, blame, or urgency.

I focus on patterns rather than personalities. Timing rather than intention. What’s being reacted to, not just what’s being said.

There’s no diagnosing. No labeling. No rushing decisions that haven’t had room to fully surface.

Across different issues, the underlying process is consistent:

Slow things down
See clearly
Reduce harm
Decide deliberately

This approach supports people navigating betrayal recovery, emotional disconnection, communication breakdowns, intimacy loss, and relationship crossroads. The goal is never a predetermined outcome. The goal is clarity you can trust.

The structure is outlined here:

Relationship Reset Experience.

Who This Work Serves Best

This is a strong fit for:

Capable, thoughtful adults struggling privately
Couples navigating betrayal, broken trust, or a sexless or emotionally disconnected marriage
People at a relational crossroads who want clarity more than reassurance
Adults who value honest communication without drama, balme, or escalation

This is not designed for crisis mental health care, emergency stabilization, or situations requiring diagnosis and clinical treatment.

If you’re unsure where you fit, the FAQs page can help you orient.

Background & Training

Industrial & Organizational Psychology
Trauma-informed coaching and post-betrayal recovery training
Decades of executive leadership experience
Private practice supporting individuals and couples since 2017

I work with people who are accustomed to responsibility, complexity, and decision-making, and who want relationship support that respects their intelligence.

I’ve also lived betrayal personally and rebuilt deliberately. That experience informs the work without defining it.

Why Clients Choose This Work

Clients often describe this work as steady, contained, and clarifying.

Conversations slow down instead of escalating
Emotional safety is restored before repair is attempted
Patterns become visible without blame
Decisions feel grounded rather than reactive

This work creates space for honesty without punishment and clarity without collapse.

Read client reflections on the Testimonials page.

Where I Work

I’m based in Westchester County, New York.

I work with individuals and couples in person and virtually. Clients are local, national, and international. Readiness matters more than geography.

If You’re Considering Working Together

You don’t need a perfect explanation or a final decision. You just need a place where the truth can be handled carefully, and where next steps are shaped with steadiness instead of urgency.