How Long Does It Take to Heal from Betrayal?

By Vanessa Cardenas, Betrayal Recovery Specialist

Serving Westchester, NYC, and the Surrounding Region in person, worldwide via Zoom

The Search for Answers

How long does it take to heal from intimate partner betrayal? This is typed into Google hundreds of times a day. So many of us who were betrayed are looking for answers, and that's one of the top questions.

The Complexity of Healing

How long does it take to heal from intimate partner betrayal? As if Google has some sort of algorithm within it that says that if you type in:

• number of years you've been married,

• number of years or months or weeks that the infidelity took place,

• number of children,

• You live in this zip code,

• This is the type of car you drive,

• This is your bank account balance,

It goes through some sort of formulary and multiplies and divides and adds and subtracts and a fraction and this and that, and it spits out a number and tells you in 183 days you will be healed.

Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that.

The Role of Professional Support

I can tell you that when you work with someone, it definitely accelerates your healing process, especially if you're working with someone who's gone through betrayal. I'm here to let you know that you will, in fact, heal from betrayal. I know it's gut-wrenching right now.

The Emotional Turmoil

With all the emotions that you're going through, your head and your heart are completely out of sync. All you're doing is searching for answers. You're getting on various groups and writing out your life story, looking for answers, and looking for an understanding of why did this happen. What did I do? All of these questions that you have, I know I had all of the same questions, and then some.

My Approach to Healing

To give you an idea of how I operate, I am not cookie-cutter. I do not put my clients through some sort of really long, convoluted, complicated process. My courses are very straightforward, right to the point. With a little bit of humor, because you do have to have humor. And I know right now you're like, "I can't laugh at anything." I'm devastated. I get it.

Personal Experience and Hope

I know I was right there with you. I had been married for decades. I never thought, never in a million years did I think that I would ever hear the words. "I've met someone," and my whole world shattered.

It shattered for others. Sometimes it's a slow burn, but in any event, betrayal is betrayal. And it hurts. It hurts like nothing else you have ever gone through.

A Beacon of Hope

I know I've been there, and now I'm on the other side. I'm a beautiful example of the possibilities. There are possibilities. There's hope. You will heal. I promise you; you will heal. Will it be accelerated when you work with me? Absolutely. I've been exactly where you are now. While our relationships are very different, there are a lot of commonalities, and I promise you, you will heal.

Utilize Available Resources

Take advantage of all the resources that I have available for you. My approach includes supportive coaching that focuses on your personal growth and reflective practices in coaching. I offer a nonjudgmental coaching space where active listening is key to understanding your unique situation.

As a certified life coach and trauma coach, I help you overcome self-sabotage and find fulfillment and purpose. Whether you need relationship coaching or personalized betrayal recovery sessions, I am here to support you. Located in Westchester County, New York, I provide sustainable, life-changing strategies to ensure your healing and growth. Read more about my credentials and training here.

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