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Healing from Betrayal: How to Reclaim Yourself After Betrayal

October 22, 20222 min read

By Vanessa Cardenas, Betrayal Recovery Specialist

Serving Westchester, NYC, and the Surrounding Region in person, worldwide via Zoom

Being betrayed by my beloved made me very critical of my own body. For months, I couldn’t even look in a mirror, as I would rip myself to shreds.

During the reprieves from the intrusive thoughts and mental pictures, which I over-romanticized, I was obsessing about my features, especially my hands. I thought about aging, how women doubt themselves as they get older, society's lack of acceptance of women at different ages, social media, and the ease by which sexual content is readily available, and how women are exploited to exploit men.

Rebuilding Trust and Seeking Support

Diving headfirst into rebuilding relationship trust, with the help of marriage counseling, therapy, CSAT, EMDR, and coaches, and absorbing all the wisdom of the great authors on betrayal, healing began to emerge.

My rage, fear, shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and everything else I was feeling dissipated, with profound hope taking its place.

I reclaimed myself, feeling empowered and resilient.

Embracing Authenticity and Self-Acceptance

I wanted to capture that moment in time—a visual reminder of my authentic self. It was important for me to highlight that a woman of my age could be beautifully photographed—and with her clothes on.

This portrait, specifically through a mirror, reminds me of who I truly am.

Vanessa Cardenas, Betrayal Recovery Specialist, is photographed reflected through a mirror after reclaiming herself after betrayal

Encouraging Others to Seek Support

I encourage you to reach out for support, whether that’s a religious leader, a marriage counselor, a therapist to dig through your past, or a trusted advisor to help you see the future. Reach out for support to work through all of the feelings that you have, because there are and will be many along your journey. It's time to reclaim yourself.

Final Thoughts and Offer of Help

Of course, let me know if I can help. I have been where you are, and I am on the other side with a map and a flashlight. Together, we will get you through.

Next one: 10 Crucial Reasons to Hire (or Not to Hire) a Relationship Coach After Betrayal

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Vanessa Cardenas | Betrayal Recovery Specialist | Relationship Coach | Author | Speaker | Writer

I believe self-love and self-trust can be reignited, even after the most devastating betrayals. As a Betrayal Recovery Specialist, relationship coach, and C-suite Executive with over 20 years of experience, I combine personal insights with professional expertise to guide others through healing and empowerment. Certified by the Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute and in various coaching disciplines, I’m dedicated to helping you live life with purpose and intention. Explore my website to learn more about my journey and how I can support you on yours.

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